Pain is a part of a living, We fall, we stumble, it drains us, It makes us feel useless, It makes us so depressed, and eventually it will turn our life upside down.But at the end of the day all those heartache and pain it either make us a better person or make us worse, but all i can say whatever makes you feel better keep on going, But don’t turn your life into become a bad person instead use those heartache and pain for you to become a better person, use it to mold you, use it to inspire you.
This article is for all of those people out there who are experiencing. heartbreak, loneliness,disappointment, and or loss. and i hope you learn something from it, We all are in this road together, We will help each other to overcome all of those, I am not an expert but i certainly knew what life is all about. What pain is all about, When you are in that kind of situation, You felt like you trap into something unbreakable,Something that is hard to overcome, it will always test how strong you are, and how tough you become.
I grew up in the farm, I come from a simple, Loving family, both my parents are hard working and raise 7 Children, It wasn’t easy for them for sure,But all of us has being taught from our parents to become person with moral and dignity,We all make mistake, But we always learn from it.
I grew in those little farm house, Watching the season change, Watching the river flow, Watching the birds passed by, looking after our water buffalo, Our cows and chicken. and of course our plants that provide us food.It was not fancy living yet we are contended and happy family.
But life is always trying to knock you down, We had a problem in our farm due to drought, We lost everything, and Unlucky enough our house got burn, We become homeless,We have nothing left,We started from the rags again. It was the toughest part of our life, I was 7 years old at that time i think. I remember those times that my Dad gone all day looking for food and what remains in our farming.But even-though all of his 7 kids had survive.Eventually Our Mum decided to left us and find a job in the big city so she can send us money to start over again. She work as a housemaid for 1500 pesos a month, But she did not mind that as long as she can send us money for us to survive, Ive seen my Dad was really heart broken from it,He is a very tough guy but one time i saw him crying alone while trying to feed his 7 kids alone. It took us years to get back on our feet again.and years for us to see our mother again as well, I go to school thinking what is happening, where is our mother, One day i ask my Dad when our we going to see mother, He said soon, But when is soon? I have younger brother’s like 6 years old, 3 years old and 2 years old.They needed a mother. And myself need a mother as well, But we don’t have any choice. 4 years had passed my mum finally return. It was the happiest moment of our life.She bought some toys for us,and I got one new shoes.But the sad thing is, Our youngest could not recognize my mum anymore, he doesn’t even go near with my mother, My mum left when he was just 1 year old.My mum was really heart broken, But thats the consequences for her leaving us, I myself understand why? but some of my sibling don’t, It was really tough for my mum how to become closed with her kids again.It so sad really? But she always tried to gain our closeness to her, Until we all become closed to our mother again, But life turns into something else, Those four years without our Mum, Our Dad find comforts drinking, Even though he look after us well, But Because he couldn’t sleep he turn himself into a very alcoholic person just to find comfort. Until he become drunkard and become abusive to our mother,He accusing our mother that having appear while she is working in the big city, But my mum always denied it and all she is doing is working just to provide food for her kids. It doesn’t stop there, It is my mum struggling to gain my father’s trust,My mum cried all the time, We started our own little store, But our father spend all his time drinking with his friend.Until he become so ill,and that the time he stop, Yet it was too late when he was diagnosed having kidney problem.Our mother look after our Dad and they become close again.Eventually when I started High School I left home, and find myself in the big city, I was 12 years old at the time, I started become a working student, It was so tough for a young boy who had never been in the city trying to fit in himself, But eventually i found a family who help me send to school as a working student,I manage to finish my high School, It was so tough without seeing my family, No Cellphone, No letters, No any means of communication at that time, I don’t have any idea what is happening back in our farm, And they also have no idea where i am and what am i doing, If i am in the goods hands,They all against from me leaving, Yet I was so determined to leave to find my future, My mum said why cant i just stay, ad help our Dad, I told her.” I couldn’t see my tomorrow from there” I needed to leave and find my tomorrow’s. I know its a gamble. Yet I did it, I pack up all my things and started walking. I wasn’t scared at all, Infact i was so excited.to make my story short, So yes I did it, I finish my High School, and eventually finish my college through hard work and determination.
All those pain become a part of my history, A part of my life, those pain becomes the Inspiration for me. They make me a person I am right now. Below is the guide on how to become strong? and eventually overcome the hardship and pain.
1. Always believe that you are stronger than what you think: You may say I couldn’t do it, I am not strong enough but I know you can, You are being designed to be one. Just believe in yourself.
2. Dont you ever ever give up: No matter how hard life is, Dont give up, believed on the saying, There is always light at the end of the tunnel,So keep on hoping, and keep on going at the end of the day everything is paid off.
3. Dont lose hope: Hope is what I only had, Hope that someday things will get better, When you have no hope, you have no reason to keep on going.
4. Be always inspired and find inspiration: My family is my inspiration, They will always be.and im always inspired by the people around me, The people who taught me.
5, Strong faith and trust God’s guidance: All those hardship in life I always find a way to kneel and pray. This will always help you and evetually make you feel better, Just always remember you are not alone. God is watching over you.There are no easy answers, no formulas. Everyone has to work it out for themselves. Dealing with suffering can be extremely difficult, but with God’s help, it is possible.
6, Always believe in yourself that you are not alone: Keep this on your mind that you are not all alone, You are not invisible. It easy to say that world is closing in, The world is stumble upon yours shoulder,but always remember someone out there loving you.
7 Keep on moving forward: Always keep your head up, Always keep on moving forward, Keep on saying you can, And you will.
8, Trust and love yourself: Always trust yourself, You are better person, you are special,You are different and unique, You are one of a kind, you are one in a million, you are loved.
Thank you so much for reading, Like I said im not an expert but this is all base on my personal experience and this what helps me to be a better person.I am not perfect and i dont claim to be one, but i am a human like you, We all encountered pain and hardship in life, But If i can overcome it, You can overcome it as well.
Please comment below how you fight to overcome hardship in life and be an inspiration.I need help, as much as I can get.
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Hinagdanan cave,Its has unique beauty,enjoyed the funny tour guide as well, The cave is so spacious inside, with wonderful natural lighting. The stalactites are awesome. I did not feel claustrophobic inside. A really worth to visit while in Bohol.Dont forget to take a photo like this :)
Next Destination was the Bee farm. Oh its a very Interesting short bee farm tour, Very informative as well, Believe it or not, I did not know that you can actually eat the boquin bella petals, and some different kind of petals salad was served, Lots of honey products as well. Dont forget to dine at Bee Restaurant while appreciating the magnificent views,
